Working for a sexist boss

[mermdotcom]

Lately, I've become more and more disgusted with my boss.  He's a difficult person to work with because he's arrogant and loud, and always tries to pass the blame for his mistakes on someone else.  These traits I can deal with, especially since I've been keeping records of all his decisions so that he can't shift blame on me (as he's tried to in the past), but his blatant disrespect for women is becoming more and more apparent.

He constantly bad-mouths his wife and will call her from work to ask what SHE is making HIM for dinner.  He makes degrading jokes and comments about women.  And today was just the icing on the cake - he actually said (and I've documented this with date and time in my records): "David's all pro-equal rights for women.  I don't agree with that, but..."

I'm going to have to go to human resources about this.  I hate filing reports against people and it usually takes a lot to offend me, but I'm just so disgusted with the fact that the person I have to answer to has such complete and utter disrespect for my gender.  The only people who work under him are me and one other woman. 

I don't want to quit this job.  I love everyone else that I work with.  Besides I wouldn't be able to make this much anywhere else - as far as work experience and formal education are concerned, I'm technically not qualified for the position I have.  Any advice or positive energy you guys could offer would be much appreciated.

[RedRonin]

Sounds about like you've got it covered.  You're maintaining a CYA file and talking to HR.  Based on what this goober sounds like, he'll probably try some form of reactionary abuse that will end up sticking his neck in the noose for good.

[Zenon]

geez, what an asshole.  I wouldn't know how to deal with something like that.  but, what an asshole...

[Lark]

Sheesh, what a shame.  But I think you are handling it well.  Idiots like this eventually end up being their own worst enemy, and company's can't afford to turn a blind eye anymore because of the risk of lawsuits from their employees.

Good luck on this.  I hope things improve for you.

-Lark-

[mermdotcom]

Things already seem to be looking up!  My boss's boss is leaving the company in June or July (depending on how long it takes to train his replacement) and several of us were worried that his position was going to be offered to this jerk.  In addition to being a punk, he also runs his mouth off too much to one of my coworkers and she said that he let it slip that he's been told he's not even being considered for the position!  When his boss first told us that he was leaving, this guy seemed to think he was guaranteed to get it!

In addition to that, I sometimes cover the phones at the front desk when the receptionist isn't there.  I was covering Monday morning and got to see the applicants for that positionn coming in for interviews.  Most of them were very assertive-looking women! 

[Labrys]

Lately, I've become more and more disgusted with my boss.  He's a difficult person to work with because he's arrogant and loud, and always tries to pass the blame for his mistakes on someone else. 

- he actually said (and I've documented this with date and time in my records): "David's all pro-equal rights for women.  I don't agree with that, but..."


 Any advice or positive energy you guys could offer would be much appreciated.

It does sound like you are doing what is best.  If it makes you feel any better, you aren't alone, my son works for someone like this; he not only acts like a bad movie lounge lizard around any women clients, but abuses both the men and women working for him.  Talk about critters we WISH were an endangered species!