Advice for ritual- will it help or hinder?

[Anonymous]

Hello everyone, I am Appoline.
I am a lightworking witch and herbalist of Rom origins, and have been performing ritual and healing independantly for many years now, though this is my first experience of an online pagan forum.
I would be grateful for some advice in the situation I currently find myself in.
Basically some bad judgement (and general stupidity and ignoring all of the karmic signs and resonance the universe tried to guide me with) I have placed myself into a bad situation where I am now likely to lose my house and job within the next few months.
The materialistic aspect of this is the bottom of the pile of my worries, and my main, infact only concern, is my cats. I have four, and they're my babies and I couldn't live without them, but I am out of ideas as to how to live if the worst case scenario happens. I need my own place to live (even if it's tiny) in order to be able to keep the cats, and also have the freedom to practice my lightworking rituals, and of course, some form of job with which to keep us all in whiskers!

In any situation prior where I need help or a 'nudge' I would use ritual or appeal to the Goddess.
However, I am so overtaken with a deep seated, apathetic depression due to this at the moment, that I feel any ritual or meditation I perform would be counter productive, and cause matters to get worse.
I have learnt a lesson from a similar situation where I performed a ritual to acheive my aim by any means, and did, but of course in the worst possible ways, and it nearly ruined me and I regret it still, nearly ten years on.
My current situation is so important, there is no way I will risk something like this occouring again.
I would normally ask my family (who are Rom) to ask blessings or perform ritual for me, but they would become upset and disappointed in me if I discussed what i've done with them, and again, unobjective and negative in the course of the ritual.

Now that i've rambled on, my question is this....
Should I perform a ritual? Should I steer well clear of performing any ritual for anything at this time? Should I ask a third party unconnected to perform a ritual for me (assuming I could find as third party.) or has anyone any other ideas? (Apart from 'you stupid b***ch, why did you get into this state in the first place? Because beleive me, i've been in that place for days.)
Many thanks for reading this far!

[Shadow]

Since your problems seem to stem from financial difficulties have you tried, oh say, the want ads in your local news paper?

You'll find that we are a pretty down to earth bunch around here.  We tend to explore mundane means before seeking magical cures for our problems.

[Anonymous]

My difficulty is not basically financial, thats just an unhappy side effect.
Thatns for the suggestion, but the upcoming courtcase I am facing is more the issue, ie, the impact it will have on my future employability if found against me.
And yes, I spend plenty of time trying to work out the logistical ways to manage the possible conclusions to this, but that wasn't really the kind of help I was after.

[Anonymous]

I believe that we humans crave ritual as a way to calm and focus ourselves.  While you may not want to do any workings...why would you not want to give thanks through ritual?

[Anonymous]

Focused energy towards a goal is normally iffy when one is very emotionally unstable at times that cause a lot of strife.  But, as said above, there's no harm in a ritual to ask for help, or give thanks, or even to seek out a calm place to just be.

[Anonymous]

What kind of help were you after ?    

You aren't the first, nor will you be the last to ask for something and get more than you bargained for, and everything gets out of hand.   Try using this time as a chance for a new begining and rearrange your life.

I find a cleansing ritual for the house works very well, clear out all the negative energy and maybe a personal ritual for yourself to clear your mind and focus your energy.  The rest of it is going to be practical.    

Good luck.      Kate.