Request for advice

[Anonymous]

Greetings, board!
First off, I want to repeat my condolences about the passing of Branwen: She will be sorely missed!
 
As to my request-
I am well aware of the board policy on spell requests, and I want to assure all concerned that it isn't my intention to make one.  I'm looking for suggestions and/or advice only.
 
I've been single now for six months, for the first time in over 20 years, and I'm thoroughly tired of it.  I intend to design a rite to attract "the right woman for me for this point in my life", whoever she may be.  If anybody has some suggestions on symbolism, structure, deity-forms, etc., or any advice related to the topic, it would be much appreciated.  I can't seem to focus at the moment, I keep getting distracted by the situation.
 
I apologise if this hits too close to "spell requests", and want to reiterate that such is not my intention.
 
Thanks
Danlan Starwolf

[Gryphon]

6 months is not an overlong time to be alone. Instead of fighting the situation

I'm thoroughly tired of it

accept it with grace and humility. It may be you have a lesson the Gods are wanting you to learn that cannot be learned while in a relationship.
 
Instead of chaffing at your current situation try and meditate on what Your Higher Self's will is for you today.
 
Believe me once you do that and begin to move forward again on your life's Path, new opportunities for relationships will fall into your lap.
 
I spent nearly two years in a plateau such as yours. When it ended I had my choice of men and ended up "finding" Red and marrying him.
 
I put finding in quote marks because he was halfway across the country and nothing was further from my mind than making a mating with a person that would uproot my entire life. Very little of my old life remains now. How ready are you for a complete upheaval of your own life?

[Anonymous]

:wink: I seem to detect alot of sexual energy hear try tapping into that.

[Anonymous]

I think that if you can't find contentment being alone, you won't find contentment with someone else.  I'm sure that it seems longer in person, but 6 months of not having someone is a pretty trivial amount of time.  Being alone doesn't necessarily mean you have to be lonely.  Being with someone romantically won't bring you happiness or completion.  I think most people are stuck under the idea that they need to have another person to complete them in life and overlook the idea that we're whole people as we are.  Inability to accept and embrace this will only cause issues in relationships anyway, so there's no point in running before you even know how to walk.

Being ready for a meaningful longterm relationship requires a lot of personal preping.  It's not just about finding someone who is going to accept you for who you are, it's also about finding the ability to accept yourself so you can be confident and secure in a relationship.  Romantic relationships aren't coping devices, they're a means for sharing your life with someone else.

[Anonymous]

I wasnt going to post, but I think you might find this useful.
I am in a similar situation - going thru a divorce and without a partner, and honestly, loveing it! But, I do get lonely at times.

I recently picked up this book, and can only say I wish I had picked it up before my wife left me - it makes SO much sense now!

Anyway, FWIW: " The Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida. I highly recommend it - I am only in about a quarter of the way, and it has already helped me to see so much!

[Anonymous]

Branwen passed away?

Oh my...
I might not have known her for long, but this site was created by her. She was sort of like our mom...